Setting goals as a couple can be a transformative process, deepening your connection and providing a roadmap for shared growth and connection to one another. However, for couples navigating the effects of stress, mental health, parenting, trauma, and or attachment wounds; the process requires sensitivity and intentionality on a regular basis not just at the beginning of the year. Integrating the principles below offers a compassionate and effective framework for setting and achieving goals together and effectively growing together. I love to incorporate Gottman Method Couples & Internal Family Systems approaches for establishing a safe environment for goal setting.

The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of a strong relational foundation rooted in friendship and partnership. They recommend checking in weekly during date nights on your Love Maps which promote connection and deeper reflection on life values. When setting goals, applying these principles help promote a strong connection, which permits individualization and shared meaning for both partners to grow within the relationship.